I would agree that most people are sympathetic and positively disposed towards helping someone who is being victimised. In addition, finding someone with sufficient empathy, patience and understanding as an AS mentor is far from easy in a corporate context; one which, unlike an educational establishment, is not automatically geared towards personal development objectives.
An AS manager should strive to identify such a person, but cannot rely on actually doing so. Informing the company of any victimisation is an even more vexed issue. The implications mean that, in many instances, the consequences are simply potentially too damaging — being viewed as a complainer or running the risk of antagonising someone higher up. Where one can personally self assist, I believe, is by changing behaviours that inflict self damage: looking presentable, not using inappropriate discourse, being amenable to others and not confrontational and, above all, controlling feelings of personal dislike and disapproval ethical — which are always likely to be present in a corporate context — towards others.
There are a number of pertinent examples taken from a teaching context here. As the author quite rightly points out, teaching is a very difficult job. Teachers need to create an atmosphere that is conducive to collegiality; one that suppresses the conditions that encourage and facilitate bullying. Managing is difficult too, but corporate objectives may mean that collegiality cannot be a priority or be realisable. A teacher working with children is obliged to try and assist the individual; a manager focused on delivering commercial returns may not be necessarily. A manager with AS cannot expect to assume a superior will allow an albeit possibly unintentional challenge to a directive to go unquestioned, or accept someone not doing something they perceive to be irrelevant to them or provide the constant re-assurance desired.
However, the book does make a number or relevant and valuable suggestions about coping with bullying which can be extended into a corporate context. It begins by exploring how an understanding of bullies can be developed and what their motives are. This is relevant given the political nature of organisations, something that a person with AS may not fully appreciate due to a lower ability to understand human behaviour. Dubin identifies the imbalance of power as the key element of bullying.
For bullying to occur there must be an imbalance of power, an attempt to assert it over a person and intent to harm or damage them. Often it is covert and not actually said openly. Power is central within organisations. The victimisation I have experienced has been to a degree a result of egos and personal power bases. I have not automatically respected these as my AS has dictated there is no reason why should!
In my case, Smith et. Doing so enabled one manager to locate what Dubin describes as my Achilles Heel — my personal uncertainty about my own character and ability to effectively counter criticism. According to the author, the underlying or unconscious reasons for bullying often have a fear based, emotional underpinning.
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I can resonate with that; and also see with hindsight how my reactions exacerbated a response from the individual concerned. The individual concerned was, I believe, insecure and my responses exacerbated that insecurity. Bullying involves exposure consistently to negative actions and this occurred with me over an extended time period. The mistake I made was not confronting it sooner. Out of any imbalance of power comes an urge to exploit the weakness of others.
If a person senses they have power over someone they will seek to exploit it as it provides a feeling of greater self-esteem. If left unchecked, a feeling of fear may develop and this is what, with hindsight, I believe happened to me. The book then goes on to make a number of useful suggestions about techniques that the individual can develop to further enhance their protective armoury.
These involve the acquisition of a basic verbal self-defence repertoire, without which one is virtually powerless to defend oneself from verbal abuse. If one loses control and has a meltdown, it is all over; the ability to self defend is lost. If a bully has to work too hard, they will usually move onto an easier target. Do not tolerate bullying by a superior. His next suggestion is also important: build a support group.
This will reduce personal isolation whilst increasing that of the bully. Try to find someone supportive to be with. If you can, it is generally likely that you will be picked on less when you are with people. Bullying comes as a surprise for someone with AS, as bullies strike without warning. As I have also found, the surprise is an extra jolt as there is a lower protective emotional shield because of personal sensitivity. Each instance of bullying becomes more cumulatively draining, exhausting and frightening.
Once that fear is created, the bully can act without any consequence of retaliation.
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Other techniques that Dubin suggests are certainly worth considering and trying. Updated with the latest research and resources, the second edition clearly explains the implications of the DSM-5 diagnostic changes. Covering everything from Anxiety to Fragile-X Syndrome, Stephen Heydt provides an alphabetical categorisation of the possible issues a child with autism spectrum disorder ASD may encounter.
Written by an experienced clinical psychologist, this book offers information for parents whose children have been diagnosed with ASD, and is presented in an easy-to-use A to Z format. In a return to core understandings of ASD, the author translates difficult behavioural issues into practical information and strategies. Blending science with personal experience, author Patricia Romanowski Bashe offers a definitive resource for teaching kids with Asperger syndrome the life skills that build independence, confidence and self-esteem.
Children and young people with autism have the capacity to be independent and resilient which can help them live independently or be supported to live a fulfilling life and reach their full potential. This book empowers parents of autistic children aged two to ten to help them promote resilience in their child.
Full of suggestions and simple activities, this easy-to-use resource will help guide parents on how to build the foundations of resilience and independence for situations such as school, new environments and relationships with other children. It includes information about the main developmental stages for children on the autism spectrum, and will take parents through life events and milestones at different ages and identify where difficulties and barriers to resilience may arise and how to address them.
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This book empowers parents of autistic young people aged 11 to 20 to help them promote resilience in their child. Full of suggestions and simple activities, this easy-to-use resource will help guide parents on how to build the foundations of resilience and independence for situations such as negotiating sexuality and relationships, entering employment or living away from home.
It includes information about the main developmental stages for preteens and teens on the autism spectrum, and will take parents through life events and milestones at different ages and identify where difficulties and barriers to resilience may arise and how to address them. Parties and celebrations can be highly challenging for children and teens on the autism spectrum and they can often feel reluctant to participate. Drawing on personal experience with her son, the author highlights aspects of conventional parties that can heighten the anxieties of those on the spectrum and outlines practical solutions to these issues.
The book covers considerations for party invitations, prizes, food and venues and includes chapters suggesting activities for age groups , and teenagers. This book will empower parents and caregivers to plan stress-free parties with ease, enabling those on the autism spectrum to develop social skills and self-confidence — and most importantly, have fun! After years of misdiagnosis, Jane's daughter, Mollie, was diagnosed with PDA at the age of seven, and we follow her experiences pre and post diagnosis to age 10 as she attends school, interacts with the outside world and approaches adolescence.
Throughout, Jane provides commentary on her daughter's behaviour and the impact it has on her family, explaining the 'why' of PDA traits, including the need for control, meltdowns, obsessive behaviour and sensory issues. She reveals the strategies that have worked for Mollie and provides essential advice and information on obtaining a diagnosis and raising awareness of PDA. The book also includes an interview with Mollie. Full of advice and support, and with a focus on understanding the child and how he or she sees the world, this book will be of immeasurable value to the parents and families of children with PDA as well as the professionals working with them, particularly teachers and teaching assistants, SEN co-ordinators, psychologists, outreach workers and social workers.
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If you have a child with Asperger's syndrome AS or high-functioning autism, conventional parenting principles will often prove insufficient and unproductive. This intelligent companion has all the answers, explanations and advice to enable parents to feel confident in providing effective support for their child with AS or high-functioning autism. The author explains how to help develop social and communication skills, clarifies the type of assistance needed from outside the family and where to find it , and includes suggestions on how to ensure that the needs of other siblings are also met.
Written from the insightful perspective of a child psychiatrist, this very practical book will provide concrete help for parents and carers. The experience and expertise shared will also be useful for all professionals working with children with AS or high-functioning autism and their families. Joshua Muggleton knows from personal experience what it is like to grow up feeling like 'a Martian marooned on planet Earth'. Opening with the very basics of what autism is, Joshua covers mental health, sensory issues, obsessions and rituals, friendships and social situations, and shopping, travelling, and holidays, before tackling what is arguably the biggest challenge of any Aspie child's life: school — and with it, bullying, homework, and other challenges.
Providing the inside track on Asperger Syndrome in childhood, he describes practical ways in which parents and teachers can help, and offers a wealth of advice and helpful hints and tips for approaching common difficulties. An essential guide for any parent or teacher wishing to understand and help a child with Asperger Syndrome or high-functioning autism. Smart kids with autism spectrum disorders need specific interventions to find success in school and beyond.
Relying on the latest research, and presenting it in easy-to-understand and practical language, the authors identify how the key components of ASD and SCD will appear to parents and professionals and what steps should be taken once these signs are evident. This book is sure to help any parent or teacher wanting to see their smart kids with autism succeed! Why are sleep disorders more common in individuals with autism spectrum disorders ASDs , and how can parents recognise the signs and symptoms? Which treatments are most effective, how easy are they to implement and how successful can they be?
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Full of helpful information and practical advice, this comprehensive guide introduces the most common sleep issues in children with ASDs, describing both mainstream and complementary options for treatment, what is involved and the outcomes that can be expected. The author describes common underlying conditions that might lead to sleep difficulties, including genetic conditions, diet and physical factors, explaining how parents can identify these. Various issues that can affect sleep are explored, including night terrors, teeth grinding, bedwetting and sleepwalking, and practical solutions are given.
This is essential reading for parents of children and teenagers on the autism spectrum who have difficulties associated with sleeping, and will also be of great help to all individuals with ASDs who experience sleep problems. With clear instructions and adaptable checklists and worksheets, this book will enable parents of children with ASD to create a personalized toolkit of information and strategies to support their child at school, at home, and in the community. Telling your child about their autism diagnosis can be daunting. Will they be better off for knowing? What's the right way to tell them?
Should you inform anyone else too? As a mother of two children on the spectrum, with over ten years' experience as a psychologist specialising in childhood autism, Raelene Dundon has all the tips you'll need. In this concise book, she sets out case studies, examples and resources that will equip you to make your own informed choices and help your whole family to live well with autism.
Part One provides ways to tell children of different ages and development levels about their diagnosis, including photocopiable and downloadable worksheets designed to help diagnosed children understand autism, and gives advice on what to do if they react in a negative or unexpected way to the news. Part Two explores the pros and cons of sharing the diagnosis with others, including family, friends, school staff and your child's classmates, and guides you through what to do if others don't understand or accept the diagnosis.
An individual with ASD may quickly learn time-telling skills; however, simply being able to tell time does not necessarily lead to time-management skills. This practical book provides the tools necessary to move beyond time identification, and teach learners how to use time in a way that promotes independence. Teaching Time Management to Learners with Autism Spectrum Disorder presents ways to facilitate time-management skills for learners across the lifespan, as a skill that can be developed from early childhood through the adult years.
With Understanding Death and Illness and What They Teach About Lif e, family and professionals have guidance for these important, but difficult, conversations. Author Catherine Faherty offers detailed, concrete explanations of illness, dying, losing a pet, and more. The Communication Forms following each short topic will engage learners and include them in the conversation, allowing them to share personal experiences, thoughts, and concerns. What is Autism?
Understanding Life with Autism or Asperger's. Though in recent years the diagnosis of autism has reached epidemic proportions, it is far from understood. Packed full of tips and tricks to improve the diet of super sensitive Asperger kids, this book is a must read for parents who want to help their children overcome food avoidance and sensory sensitivities. Sarah Patten shows other parents that they are far from alone in their struggle to get their children to eat a varied and well-balanced diet. She describes how, through a combination of love, patience and a little sleight of hand, she managed to get her son to go from eating just three bland white foods to eating a colourful and nutritious diet including fruit and vegetables.
Providing recipes for many simple, healthy meals given the Asperger seal of approval, as well as advice for making mealtime routines, eating together as a family and eating out as stress-free as possible, the book provides a wealth of ideas and strategies for moving towards a more varied and nutritious diet. It also includes food diaries and charts to make planning meals and tracking progress simple.
Puberty, personal hygiene and sex can be difficult topics to broach with your child, especially when they have an intellectual disability or autism. The authors of this guide provide honest answers to challenging questions and provide solutions to the dilemmas that many parents face on a daily basis.
Structured around issues related to puberty and emerging sexuality in children with disabilities or autism, such as physical changes, mood swings and sexual behaviour, the book presents practical guidance on how to overcome problems that commonly arise. Written for parents and carers of young people with an intellectual disability or autism, this guide provides answers the questions that you may have felt too uncomfortable to ask before. Supported by case studies, the authors offer professional guidance on supporting and responding to your child's emerging sexuality. Written for professionals, women on the spectrum and their families, this is a cradle to grave overview of girls and women with Autism Spectrum Disorder ASD at each stage of their lives.
The difference that being female makes to the diagnosis, life and experiences of a person with an Autism Spectrum Disorder ASD has largely gone un-researched and unreported until recently. In this book Sarah Hendrickx has collected both academic research and personal stories about girls and women on the autism spectrum to present a picture of their feelings, thoughts and experiences.
Outlining how autism presents differently and can hide itself in females and what the likely impact will be for them throughout their lifespan, the book looks at how females with ASD experience diagnosis, childhood, education, adolescence, friendships, sexuality, employment, pregnancy and parenting, and aging. It will provide invaluable guidance for the professionals who support these girls and women and it will offer women with autism a guiding light in interpreting and understanding their own life experiences through the experiences of others.
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You Can't Make Me! All behavior is communication, and when it comes to figuring out what your child is trying to say, Dr. Jim Ball has the answers. As the adult, behavior change starts with you. This book applies a whole-person perspective toward behavior management and will help you address the unwanted behavior in the moment, as well as provide strategies to prevent the behavior from recurring again in the future.
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Monday-Friday Saturday a. Closed Sunday. Written for parents, teachers, counselors, and medical professionals, The Asperger Plus Child offers insights including: Why it is important to understand the real difference between autism and Asperger Syndrome How you can tell if a child has AS or ADD and why the distinction will become more important as the child grows through his teen years What a child with AS who also has a nonverbal learning disability looks like compared to a child with AS without an NLD Though each child is as different as a fingerprint, there are shared patterns as well as important differences.
Chapters examine: causes and indications of the syndrome the diagnosis and its effect on the individual theory of mind the perception of emotions in self and others social interaction, including friendships long-term relationships teasing, bullying and mental health issues the effect of AS on language and cognitive abilities, sensory sensitivity, movement and co-ordination skills career development.
Together with our partners, we just released a Special Needs Anti-Bullying Toolkit, full of resources and information specifically tailored to parents, educators, and students dealing with bullying and children with special needs.
Click here to read the Toolkit! Getting started is as easy as writing a letter to your child's teacher, or asking your Principal to post your school's anti-bullying policy in public places around the school building. It could mean talking to your child about how he or she has experienced bullying, or reading about the roles of bullying and identifying your personal place in the cycle of bullying.
Every step towards a bully free world will help a child with special needs live free from fear and torment. BULLY is a powerful documentary directed by Lee Hirsch that follows the lives of five students who face bullying on a daily basis. In fact, it had the strongest opening weekend of any documentary film so far this year. The Bully Project highlights solutions that both address immediate needs and lead to systemic change.